Coercive Abuse
Every kind of abuse is designed to be controlling in some way, either through fear, isolation, humiliation or restriction of resources. There are countless examples of controlling behaviour. It can be any kind of behaviour and is usually designed to target specifically your individual circumstances.
- Checking your phone
- Going through your bank statements or online banking
- Occasional indulgences – giving you hope that they will change by being nice every so often
- Arguing/creating tensions with your family/friends so that you become isolated from them
- Creating expectations based on your gender
- Blaming you for the abuse or making you feel responsible
- Telling you that no one will believe you because you’re a man
- Accusing you of having affairs
